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Dr. Richard A. Huntoon

Newburgh Chiropractor

 

Do You Measure Your Life By Loss vs. Gain?

Loss vs. Gain

I received an e-mail one day from a patient who said her experience here at the office was really pivotal regarding her seriously getting on the path to good health.  I was quite pleased to hear that, as I truly felt for this person and knew of the difficulties she had faced.  I also knew what they would become if she didn't make any changes.  She went on to say that she enjoys sending and receiving e-mails from me, and she wishes she could share more of what is going on with her life and her health, but "I never liked paying money to talk to people!!!"  My reply to her was that she shouldn't think of the exchange as paying money to people for talking.  In fact, she shouldn't think of the exchange as costing her anything.  She should be looking at what she's gained by the exchange, not what she's spent toward the exchange.  

This got me to thinking, how many other people out there feel they are paying money to talk to, or anything else to, people and thinking of it as a loss?   I must say, it perplexes me, but I can appreciate her thinking that way.  How the human mind works is incredible, and how we get trapped into our particular negative thought habit patterns is intriguing to say the least.  If this is a problem for you, I have a way of unlocking these which I will offer to you at the end of this article.

So I thought I'd write today about the concept of Loss vs. Gain.  Depending on your point of view, it can make all the difference between being happy vs. being unhappy.  After consulting the dictionary to clarify my terms, the word Loss has the meaning "the act or instance of losing."  Not very helpful.  It went on to read, "The harm or suffering caused by losing or being lost."  Better, but still not complete.  The last definitions were an eye opener.  They read, "Casualties, setbacks or destruction."  I guess I could now relate to why people don't want to lose.  It also helped me to appreciate where some people come from in life, and what they choose to focus their attention on.  So when shifting our focus to the word "lose" the definition reads "to be unable to sustain, maintain or keep.  To be deprived of."  These make more sense, but it goes on to read "to cause to be destroyed, to suffer loss, to be defeated."  Those last definitions are depressing, as the word loss implies a lessening.  Personally I don't want to think of these as outcomes in my life.  I'd like to think of all the outcomes in my life as positive ones.  Even the difficult and more trying times.

Gain on the other hand sounds more positive.  After all, gain means "To acquire, to secure as profit or payment, to earn, progress or advancement; to become better or greater."  Now these are the definitions we all can appreciate.  But how do we apply this to our life when we are considering the decisions we have to make?  It goes back to point of view.  What is your point of view?  If you don't like the way things look, change your point of view.  I've tried to adopt the attitude that the world is my playground.  And since it is my playground, I'm going to play by my rules.  If you want to play in my playground, we can play, but be aware that I play to win.  And I don't mean that in the sense that I win and you lose.  On the contrary.  My winning means you win too.  Everyone wins!  After all, it has been said, "We are all pieces in the big picture," and when you lose, I really lose too.  Since I hate to lose, I do everything I can to win.  And that means a win for you in the process.  So my relationships and interactions with others are based on "gaining in all aspects, on all levels."

When a prospective patient calls to inquire about my services, invariably the question about "How much?" comes up.  I realize at that point, the person is evaluating for himself or herself, "Do I think this guy, or what he's offering is worth that amount of money?"  I appreciate that this may be a natural question for many, as I myself ask the same question when purchasing anything of significance.  My health certainly is of significance, and I hope your health is too.  As the answer to this first question is unfolding, the next question quickly comes in, "Am I worth what I'm spending on such and such?" and then it follows, "Will it make me happier, or my life easier by purchasing this or experiencing this, or will I feel less or unhappy?"  All of these questions really have nothing to do with the original question, "How much?"  The real question is "What am I going to Gain or Lose by this?"  This is really what we are trying to determine.  And I offer the answer, "You'll feel it's worth the expense to you if you can see the value of it for you."  The money is not the real thing here.  It's the illusion.  It's the exchange for the experience.  It's an energy transfer, which is why they call it currency.  In reality, will you allow yourself the experience of the exchange in the highest way possible?  Or will you pre judge the experience and try to formulate some level of expectation from the person or situation you will be experiencing, even before you experience it?  Is life about knowing what to expect, or is it the process of discovery?  Discovering who you are in relationship to that person, place or thing.  And then discovering what is the next grandest version of the greatest vision you ever had for yourself.  Then using the experiences of your life to do just that, discover you. What is that worth to you?  As the Visa comercial says, "Priceless." 

Trying to place a monetary value on a yet to be experience is pointless.  Yet we are all guilty of it.  Acquiring more information about what you are receiving in exchange for the money or time involved is prudent.  But don't let it stop you from experiencing what is important for your process based on it being a money thing.  Do you find yourself doing that?  Don't judge the outcome based on the person you will be experiencing it with.  They are simply a reflection of that aspect of yourself that you will be discovering.  Another way to think of it is, they are the portal for you to discover that part of yourself within the experience.  The portal for the outcome of self-discovery.  What will the outcome be?  Will it be worthy of experiencing?  The answer will always be based on what you choose to give to it.  Will you give 100 % of yourself to the situation?  Or will you hold back and continue to wait to see if what you are getting back from the experience is worth further investing, all the while evaluating it every step of the way?  Life is not about receiving.  Life is for giving and Forgiving.  If you are not going to give 100 % to the situation, then you can expect the outcome to be less than 100 % of what you were looking for.  At that point, you should expect to lose something, and I wouldn't do it either.  But if you are willing to give it your all, then you can expect your outcomes to be all they were meant to be.  This will be true for anything you invest in, whether it is based in money or time.  And it will be true in all your relationships too.  When dealing with relationships, it is not a 50/50 proposition.  It is a 100/100 proposition.  After all, when was the last time you didn't give your all to a situation and everything turned out exactly how you wanted it to?  I'd venture to bet it was never.  If you are not willing to give 100 % of yourself to the situation or relationship, then you have no one to find fault with except yourself when things don't turn out the way you wanted.  Anything less than a 100 % YES is a NO.  Always has been, always will be.  If you find yourself failing to reach for what you want; If you find yourself a little too skeptical; If you notice your life is not showing up the way you'd like, you'll want to consider the offer that's coming.

So when making choices about how to proceed in your life, don't look at it from a "What am I going to lose if I go with this?" standpoint.  Think of it as "What can I give to this scenario so I get the absolute most out of it, while at the same time discovering the next aspect of myself I would never have discovered had I not given 100 %"  Saying Yes to an experience is saying Yes to yourself.  You'll find yourself reaching for life.  Giving yourself permission to discover more of you.  And how cool is that?  And by allowing another to participate in the experience through the exchange, isn't that truly what life's all about? 

I hope this was an experience worth your time.  And to think it didn't cost you anything.  At least not from a monetary stand point;-)

My Offer To You


Dr. Huntoon has a single mission:

To support as many people as possible in their quest for health and enable them to improve and maintain their health to the highest level possible, while educating them about the benefits of Chiropractic, Natural Healthcare and Holistic Living, so they in turn can teach others to support us having a healthy community.

Your Choice

Health concerns are a major source of lost happiness and lost joy in all of our lives. Finding a solution that is agreeable and enables you to get back to your life is important. Please appreciate that you always have the more invasive surgery and prescription medication available to you as a last resort. What many Traditional Medical Doctors may not share is, many times, once you begin that journey into medication and/or surgery, it alters your original body from the one that you were born with. Unfortunately, at that time, more conservative and natural treatments may no longer be viable. I encourage you to consider that before making any decisions about treatment for your health. As always I am here to help. 
 
Your Choice:
 
  • Continue doing the same thing and nothing changes or it may get worse

OR

  • Try something different and get a different result that makes you happier and healthier.
 
The Choice is Yours
 
Please call Dr. Huntoon at 845-561-BACK (2225) to discuss your options or click on our E-Visit to do it via e-mail. 
 
Thank You for your consideration.

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